If you think you are having sexual problems for whatever reason, then a sex therapist can help. Working out the nature of the problem is the first step and that's not always straightforward. Some men think they are 'impotent' because they lose their erections before or soon after penetration. However if the erection disappears because he has already ejaculated, that's an entirely different matter Read More...
For some people, sexual stimulation of any sort is unpleasant. Sexual aversion is the extreme lower end of the libido scale. Far beyond indifference or simple disinterest, sexual aversion is a feeling of revulsion at any genital contact and can cause anxiety serious enough to lead to full-blown panic attacks Read More...
I said that sexual problems are a matter of perception, and libido is the classic example. Libido is all about how often you think about sex, and how often you feel like doing it. There's a term you hardly hear at all nowadays — 'nymphomaniac' — to describe a woman with a high and unappeasable sexual appetite Read More...
What exactly is a sexual problem? Obviously all sorts of different difficulties can arise in the area of sexuality but in many cases it is largely a matter of perception. What is normal and satisfying for one person might be the next person's problem. Take the example of sexual appetite, or libido. If you're not involved with a regular partner, having a libido at all can be a problem Read More...
Being able to express our sexuality is one of those things we take for granted, provided everything is going well. If you have a current partner and your relationship is happy, if you both manage to orgasm most of the time and don't worry when you don't, if erections are never a problem, and you have matching libidos, then sexuality is probably not an issue Read More...
Men go through fears about their new role as a father. Not many people talk about what they expect of each other as parents until the situation arises. This may be the first time that a couple discovers they have very different attitudes to childrearing. Questions like 'Who will get up at night if the baby is crying?', "Who will wash the nappies?' and 'Who will take time off work if the children are sick?' are unlikely to be topics of conversation at the engagement party Read More...
The first few weeks are the most confusing. Joan recalls, 'I went along to my six-week check after my first baby was born. The doctor asked me if we had started having intercourse yet. I didn't know if I was supposed to say yes or no, so I said "no" to be on the safe side, even though we had actually done it the week before Read More...
Childbirth is an intensely moving experience. For parents, it feels like the climax of pregnancy and labor but it's really just the beginning. Any couple will tell you having a baby really changes things. Where there was a partnership of two, now there is a third party. Loved, yes. Wanted, yes. Cute, absolutely! But whichever way you look at it, having a baby means bringing a third person into your relationship and that is bound to be one of its greatest tests Read More...
Clearly, for some couples a pregnancy will enhance the intimacy of their relationship. The anticipation of the future is an exciting joint venture; a consolidation of their commitment to each other. For others, it may drive a wedge between them. This is particularly true if one of the partners is ambivalent or plain unhappy about the prospect of parenthood Read More...
As the pregnancy progresses there is a multitude of new sensations and physical changes. Some women welcome the changes. Heather recalls, 'I couldn't wait to get into maternity clothes. As soon as I got the positive pregnancy test I wanted to rush out and buy some just to show the world that I was pregnant Read More...
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